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Fair weather friend. . .

He could buy you a bed
But it won't help you sleep
He could give you a watch
But not his time to keep
He could fly you to Verona or a mountain in the snow
He won't know the places that we used to go

You never know if you make the right decision when it comes to matters of the heart, but you have to start somewhere.  You think about decisions that you make that are based on not only what works for you, but what gives you financial security.  Do you count material possessions as being high on your priority list?  Are you with your partner because they can provide you with security like that?  Or is that what you are looking for in a potential mate?  You think that someone giving you tokens of love are proof of their love.  I guess it would be important to check the frequency of when those gifts are given too - whether they are to make up for things that they have missed or forgotten, or whether they are habitual gift givers anyway.

I heard he's best friends with Hollywood now
He can afford all the champagne in town
I heard he's got a big house up on easy street
But I've got a big heart that I want you to keep

Are you the type of person who prefers to be with someone who is famous?  You like to be well known by association and you like to be recognised as well and be part of the "it" crowd?  From what I can tell, the more famous you want to become, there is more danger of you not being able to trust people.  There are so many friends that you might lose along the way because they can't keep up with your newfound fame, or you have managed to distance yourself from them too.  Maybe your famous partner doesn't want you socialising with your old peer group and you have to upgrade your new life with new friends too.  Your loyalty will be tested.  You will either have to choose to be with people who will value you, celebrate you and respect you or be happy being a fair weather friend. . . 




My fair weathered friend 
I wish you could see
He'll never love you
Quite like me
He'll sing you a sad song just like one of mine
But I know it won't make you cry

I have been having conversations with friends in recent weeks about being burned.  Often we have talked about people who we had respected or trusted, and then find that they have used their connections to further either their own network or shut them out of opportunities.  It's an interesting time.  I sometimes feel that if I go through something, then my friends or peer group experience similar things in their lives.  I'm not sure whether it's because we are all in this transition or realisation phase, but we are all in chrysalis mode and still trying to figure out what our next steps will be.  I must say though, that if anybody was to call me a fair weathered friend, I would have to ask them to specify the times that I have burned them.  Either I have apologised for those times or there was something beyond my control or circumstances that prevented me from pursuing any other logical pathway.

Don't you remember
The promise we made
As our shadows grew long
In the field where we lay
That you'd always be you
And I'd always be me
And the sun fell asleep
And so did we

I hope that you will be able to move through these next few phases of your life with determination and strength.  There are so many distractions in this world, but they can only come to roost if you allow them to deter you from the path you have been destined to fulfil.  It will be natural to feel isolated and set apart from the rest of the world.  There are just some parts of your life journey that you must work through on your own.  We need to learn to use our most difficult times to learn how to grow, learn how to slow down and learn how to be better than we have ever been.  If you are struggling at the moment to figure out who you are or struggling with who people think you are, don't.  The last person that you need to be a fair weather friend to - is yourself.

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