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The real in you. . .

I know I'm no different
Problems on my mind
I'll be here to listen
Watch out for the signs
You just keep on pushin'
You know we sell pride
Three nights now you'll break down
Running through red lights

Maintaining a connection is important. Particularly when it is very rare for you to find people that connect with you on levels that are genuine, authentic and have the power to help you make sense of things that can consume you. Being able to share parallel experiences may not be easily revealed until more pennies drop, alongside all the other things that drop, like tears, rain and sun, if you know where to look. There will be varying levels of friends who connect with you in so many ways. Remember the ones who add to your energy rather than extract it.

I can't tell you how to live your life here
What is on your mind lady?
Do you have the time for me?
Am I a friend with honesty?

Sometimes when you share things with someone, they might feel it gives them license to critique your life and try to give emphatic statements, if not answers, to the questions that have started to make you doubt yourself. But how can you tell yourself how to live your life here? Where is here exactly? When you ask what is on my mind, I don't think I'm aware of my mind and just how much is in there. Accept good advice that comes your way. Accept bad advice that comes your way. It's what you do with that advice - whether good or bad that informs the directions you find yourself heading down. 

The bottom goes down
I'm watching you drown in blue
You dust off the table
But honest the real in you
I want you to know some friends are too good to lose
You dust off the table
But honest the real in you

I don't even know if the words of this section of the song are correct lol. Life can be a bit like that too. We may have to listen very carefully and multiple times, straining our ears to recognise whether we heard everything correctly. Are you surrounded by people who admire the way you abandon yourself and let yourself go in the spirt of any moment? The joy of experiencing a moment, responding to it with a smile or a knowing gaze that shows your steely resolve are things that you perfect over time. You learn to lighten up, dust yourself off and move in a natural groove in time.


How to watch you solo
Too far out at sea
Just let me help you paddle
Put your mind at ease

If you are a strong individual, then asking for help can be a real struggle. People's perceptions of you as being strong, while it may be the case, does not mean that you are exempt from moments where you need to be weak. When do you know when to let someone in? How do you trust that you are in a safe space to be vulnerable? How many times have you offered to help and then realised there was more than was first revealed? Those onion layers that you didn't expect would be enough to make a child cry but we continue to peel the layers until we get to the core. Who are you helping to paddle through their pain?

I can't tell you how to make your life here
What is on your mind lady?
Do you have the time for me?
Am I a friend with honesty?

When someone makes time for you, respect the time. Too often we can take for granted how much time we have with people, or assume that we will always have time for them. When someone asks me if I have time for them, my initial reaction is to respond with yes. The fact that people ask, to my mind is a courtesy that I respect. Having friends with honesty is important. As much as it is great o have a cheer squad in your corner, this also needs to be balanced with friends who can be honest about any flaws or behaviours you enact that are detrimental to you and your wellbeing. A true friend is not only honest but can do this with the right nuanced approach - knowing when to push, when to pull back and when to put it away. 

The bottom goes down
I'm watching you drown in blue
You dust off the table
But honest the real in you
I want you to know some friends are too good to lose
You dust off the table
But honest the real in you

I hope that you continue to fall into currents that take you places you never knew you could swim. How many deep ends can you continue to plunge yourself in? Be vigilant when you are with people. There will be those who have your best interests and those who want you for their own self interests. I have talked for a while now with friends in my circles about being able to 'learn to discern' - know what's right for you, know what will bring out the best of you, know what is not meant for you. Continue to breathe. Continue to dance. Continue to discover and celebrate the real in you. . . 

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