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Yes I do. . .

Do you know what's going on?
Take me by the hand saying "Yes I do"
Hear me out, I'll sing a song
Can you be the one singing "Yes I do"

At the best of times, we probably never really know what's going on. 
Are you able to live your life with such conviction? How sure are you of where you are in this present time, and where do you think you are heading? We need to start being more mindful of who sings out to us, who is calling us to take on roles and responsibilities that although we don't necessarily sign up for, we can see for sure there are ways of moving forward that require us to be sure, to be sure-footed, even when we aren't truly sure indeed.

Oh I need you next to me
Holding onto love, making dreams come true
Can you feel my energy?
Baby wear me like a glove 'cause I need you

Do you hold onto love?
We need to recognise what real love is before we can even latch onto it, before we can start to see the value of holding onto it once it arrives on the scene. What dreams are you hoping to come true? I choose to spend more time with individuals who have similar energy to mine. Granted you cannot always choose who you associate with as sometimes circumstances provide other avenues that you might not have previously explored; situations that insist on providing you with lessons you need to learn.

I tell ya baby don't you know
There's a story no one knows
I got you close baby, keep you warm
It's the calm before the storm

What stories about you do people not know?
We can never be too careful about those stories, whether they are steeped in fact or fiction (or a combination of both!). But the possibility of sharing your story with someone else, especially when they have parallel journeys that mirror yours, is a useful connection to make and maintain. Whether people are ready to hear your story or not is also totally dependent on their ability to listen carefully, and for you to reciprocate in kind.

Can you tell me everything?
Just say baby "Yes I do"
Can you wear that diamond ring?
Just say baby "Yes I do"

Learning to trust others and figuring out whether they have earned your trust is critical. 
None more richly so when it comes to matters of the heart and sharing your life with someone else. Are you prepared to make a huge commitment? Usually the fear of commitment sets in when you don't see yourself making allowances or space for someone else in your life. What holds you back from taking that next step? 


Now I know I'm on your mind
Every time in love with open arms
Can I tell you one more time?
Holding onto you, my dreams come true

When someone starts telling you how much they love you and you don't know how you feel towards them - it can make things difficult or somewhat awkward to navigate. Being able to be clear about your expectations and their expectations set the tone for discussions that should centre on clarity and transparency. Sometimes they may need to repeat themselves a few times, to convince you of their intentions and that they wish for things to progress further than what you anticipated. 

I tell ya baby, don't you know
I'm the storm before the snow
You drive me crazy and I want more
When you hold me on the floor

When will you know that you have come across your storm before the snow?
We may stumble across a few characters who make some bold claims that they can't back up (those are the Bob the Buildups people in your life lol) and when you arrive at this realisation, watch them make some fast talking responses that rival the footwork of the best salsa dance teacher.  The level of unpredictability would be at an all time high, so knowing yourself well enough to know how you would respond in such situations is dependent on how much you are growing with the flow, rather than just going with it (thanks Jay Shetty).

Can you tell me everything?
Just say baby "Yes I do"
Can you wear that diamond ring?
Just say baby "Yes I do"

Whose ring are you wearing?
I still wear my wedding and engagement rings and it's been 8 years since my husband has passed on. The reason I still wear them? There are many. But they serve as a reminder to me of the dreams that we had that he is no longer a participant. These rings represent the growth of moving beyond my marriage to unknown places that I haven't even yet considered would be possible in my realm of possibilities. 

Break it down now yeah 
Hey hey hey

I hope that before you have to make some decisions about your relationships and whether someone is angling to be your significant other, consider yourself, in the first instance. Whether you are able to be the partner that they deserve and whether you are worth the investment of time, energy and other resources. In an age where there is so much misinformation coupled with disingenuous people, it is no wonder that people need time to break things down and figure out whether those options work. We need to think about how to progress forward, even when we can't see that light at the end of the tunnel, or see ourselves with someone in the near or not too distant future - ask yourself, whether you can love yourself fiercely so you can learn to love others, then the answer should be yes I do. . . 

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