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Reason to stay. . .

 You've given your statement, the place and the time
You said, "A misunderstanding that's all it was"
I should believe you we can't build love on a lie
But I'm starting to doubt you, I wonder why

When disagreements arise how do you resolve them? Misunderstandings stem from understanding not being shared. Despite it being a painful process to iron out those kinks and get to a point of understanding, doubt can produce some natural stumbling blocks if you aren't careful. If you have poor vision you might need reminding that you can't see as well as you think you do, or you know what, you can stop trying to see for everybody else and just close your eyes for a change. How about that. Just rest instead. Maybe that could be a solution? Why be so intent on building love when you need to build it within yourself first. 

If you say you love me, don't go and waste my time
If you want my love you better mean it
One of these days if you can't behave
I'm leaving if you leave me no reason

How do we show proof of love? How do we show that we have no intention of wasting other people's time? Continual tests, no matter how small or large, the scale only comes into effect dependent on the patience and maturity of the people involved. How will you use the time to mean what you say? To mean what you feel? If we cannot provide reasons for why people are important to us, how much they mean to us and what they are in this journey we call life - then what is the point? 



If you say you love, don't go and play on my mind
If you're promising me, you better keep it
One of these days if you can't behave
I'm leaving if you leave me no reason to stay

Depending on how you are with making promises and keeping them, we can often end up eating humble pie when we break them. How many promises have you been able to make and consequently keep? What constitutes as being able to behave? Talking through hard topics are necessary because otherwise you can't grow and mature. Being able to address promises that you make to yourself first, should come first. If people insist on putting you in their lanes, kindly bow out and step aside. 

It's cool to be honest, it don't cost you to care
And trust is a virtue we should share
I'd never deceive you, I hope you treat me the same
But I'm starting to question what you say

I hope that I feel strong enough to continue to be honest. Being consistent with how to care is challenging when expectations are involved - not the least my own, with my own self pressure. Being honest and being able to trust others comes with the ability to truly listen, not judge and work hard to be better than the last conversation you had. We should not need to question what is said if we are able to be on the same page about shared understandings of beliefs, values and visions for the future, but hey, it's just a handful of an extensive list of what constitutes as many a reason to stay. . . 
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