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Nobody's supposed to be here. . .

But I turn around and you're standing here. . . 

 How did you get in 
Nobody's supposed to be here
I've tried that love thing for the last time
My heart says no no
Nobody's supposed to be here
But you came along and changed my mind

 Have you always been surprised about how love has entered your life?
I can recall occasions where it has turned up unexpectedly and unwarranted.  You can choose to react to it negatively or positively.  I laugh when I think about how in my early days of trying to understand what relationships were all about, it took me a while to figure out how I felt about relationships in general, before realising what exactly I felt about the person involved, let alone how I felt about myself and my feelings.  Has anybody slipped in undetected in your corner of the world?  There will be people that might have feelings for you but you don't know how to deal with it all.  How do you deal with that?

 I've spent all my life
On a search to find
The love who'll stay for eternity
The heaven sent to fulfil my needs
But when I turned around
Again love has knocked me down
My heart got broken
Oh it hurt so bad
I'm sad to say love wins again
So I place my heart under lock and key
To take some time and take care of me
But I turn around and you're standing here

 Is there a secret formula or some kind of secret recipe that you think about when it comes to love?
We might be conditioned to think about the types of people we are attracted to, what types of qualities we are expected to admire in a person.  That is part of the problem isn't it.  That if we are going to engage in a relationship with someone, that they have to pass the "friends test".  The family test is a whole other ballgame and if you're a female in a Pacific Island family that is staunch on traditional family values - there's no such thing as dating lol.  So instead, the friends test is the initial foray into any sort of litmus test to decide the compatibility, whether your prospective partner can survive the subtle, or not so subtle grilling from friends.  If you're game, be prepared to get your heart broken or ego bruised - by your friends or the partner that doesn't know how to act in front of your friends lol.

How did you get
Nobody's supposed to be here
I've tried that love thing for the last time
My heart says no no
Nobody's supposed to be here
But you came along and changed my mind

 I'm a huge fan of this song.  It's the song that every girl who grew up in the 90s sang in their room.  I had just finished my first college/university degree when this song was released in 1998.  I was about to embark on a relationship that I didn't think too much of, because my mentality at the time was such that I didn't intend to marry the guy.  Instead I was just keen on learning to understand what being in a proper grown up relationship was all about.  I'm sure he was too.  There are lots of memories from that period in my life that I still laugh about - and that's what it was useful for, the learning, trying to figure out and navigate your own feelings during such times.  Granted it's important that we remained friends, despite everything that came afterwards.  It helped that we were friends first and there was a mutual respect that still exists, even today. 

This time I swear I'm through
But if only you knew
How many times I've said those words
Then fall again when will I ever learn
Knowing these tears I've cried
This lovely black butterfly
Must take a chance and spread my wings
Love can make you do some crazy things
So I place my heart under lock and key
To take some time and take care of me
But I turn around and you're standing here

 I hope that when love comes knocking on your doorstep that you know what to do with it.
You might succumb to the same influences or same mistakes that you constantly make - well, that just says more about how stupid you are and what you haven't learned lol.  But I guess if you never really truly set out to hurt someone, and that you learn to respect each other, really listen to each other, then that's the main thing.  I remember several occasions when I have locked my heart away and didn't want to think about love again, ever.  And each time I did that, some random person would come along and try to ask all the right questions, to coax me into handing over the key so they could unlock it.  Nobody has come close to that happening again since my late husband has gone.  There has been nobody who has come close.  I guess, in some type of way, I dread thinking about a faceless person coming to life and then these words would come true: but I turn around and you're standing here. . . 
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