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People. . .

Ssh
They are the worst and the best you've created
Loving and hating and opinionated
Loners in basements and those congregated
Deliver me

Far from the peace, from ashore I was sinking
Deep in the ocean of thoughts they were thinking
Don't know what validation I was seeking
Deliver me from

Are you the worst or the best of His creation?  I wonder sometimes, in lots of different ways and situations about whether I am at my worst or my best.  It's a matter of perspective, isn't it?  Whether you choose to spread love, hate, or opinions that show both - who knows what people are thinking about themselves, about others, about you.  Being able to be critically self-reflective is not an easy task.  You need to be completely honest with yourself about your behaviour, in every sense of the word.  Even when you choose to be alone, (let's be honest, lately you haven't had the choice, as we've had to self isolate) so being able to use this time to reflect on yourself, while also reaching out to others is important.

There is a preponderance for seeking validation in social media because we can't physically connect with friends and family because we are literally trying to just stay alive while this global pandemic is here.  Reading through all of the comments and opinions that people have, especially if they are at odds with your belief system, can be too much.  How do you survive and block out the noise?  So many thoughts, especially those of others can be too much.  But what if your own thoughts spark your need for validation?  I guess it's human nature. We are always seeking something, but never really know what it is until we just know we've got it.

People, people
When you said you could heal me from many things
Did you mean
People, people
Deliver me

'Cause I won't point them out
I won't say their names
I don't know the damage 
Or which one to blame
It's just people, people
Deliver me

How can we stop ourselves from being hurt by people?  How can we protect ourselves from other people who seek to harm us?  Common sense tells you to stay away from situations and people who you know and feel try to do that to you on a daily basis.  As much as possible, whatever you feel in your gut about how people make you feel, listen to yourself.  That yucky feeling that you sense when someone comes around that makes you uncomfortable, honour yourself, and steer clear.  Life is too short to allow yourself to feel unnecessary pain.  It would also be a pointless life to lead to go around blaming people all the time.  I would prefer to use my energy in other ways to add value to society.


A friend shared this song with me.  When people share music with me, I tend to take notice because often they are opportunities for me to reflect on not only what they are going through, but also for me to see the relevance of how it connects with my own life situation and those around me.  When we point out things to people or blame them publicly, we sometimes need to think about whether they wronged you in private, and why would you out them publicly?  I don't know, just a thought.  It is different when it is a crime, isn't it?  You need to be held accountable for breaking the law.  So you take your day in court and you allow yourself to be subjected to it.

She was the reason I smiled in the morning
He took the last bit of joy I was storing
That's too much power for anything human
Deliver me from

The hurt are hurting 

And the broken are breaking (breaking)
And the ones who had their joy taken away
Are out here taking from the other

Who are the people who are stealing joy from your lives?  Why do you allow them to do that?  I think it takes an immense amount of willpower to really sit back and discover ways to master your own mind, to master your thought process. If you are able to be mentally strong and mentally tough - you will be able to withstand and weather any storm that comes your way.  If people continue to seek your demise, then send them back a whole heap of gratitude instead.  It's hard, isn't it?  Sometimes the best thing to do is to avoid those people and never allow yourself to feel that way ever again.  If people steal your joy, find ways to create more joy.  There's no limit on joy, you know that right?  You don't need to retaliate and take it out on others instead.  Just remember that not everyone wishes you the worst in life.  There are people out there who are trying their best to give you what you need.

Hurt people will reach out when they feel ready to share their pain.  Sometimes when you go to share your hurt with others, instead of listening to you, they would rather tell you "that's like me too".  No it isn't you fool.  When someone opens up to you about themselves, it is not an invitation to show that you have hurt more.  This is not a competition.  Listen to the person pouring your heart out to you.  Push yourself back for once and use your heart to listen, rather than with your ego.  This is a hard lesson to learn when it is so easy to judge others.  When people expect you to respond in kind, especially when they are angry and lashing out (but mostly, it is because they are hurting about other issues that they cannot control), you just sit quietly and listen.  Trust me, they will arrive at their own conclusions and solve their own problems after they talk themselves into a solution.

People, people
People, people
Forgive these
People, people
Heal me from 
People, people

Crazy

People, people
Trolling
People, people
Self-righteous
People, people
Entitled
People, people

Forgive people.  That's a hard one.  And this is hard because, for those people who wrong you, they aren't able to see the damage they did to you.  Have you seen how you have wronged others? Did you try to atone for your actions?  Were you able to receive forgiveness?  If you are not forgiven for trying to make things right, people will say, you shouldn't have done it in the first place.  There are never the right reasons for hurting others.  The outcome remains the same.  When you hurt people, all they will feel is how you have hurt them, nothing else supersedes that.  How do you heal from the hurt?  You let it go.  You can put it in a bubble and blow it away.  You can choose to not let the hurt rule your life and incapacitate you from living your best life.

During this COVID-19 global pandemic, there have never been so many crazy people who love trolling and causing trouble.  I'm not just talking about those people who breach lockdown (having karaoke parties and bbqs, or socialising with their neighbours when they should only be inside their homes), but just people having so many opinions or conspiracy theories about this virus being fake.  I bet FOX News is feeling really silly telling people that it's all a hoax.  I'm sure all of the people who have passed away from the illness isn't fake news.  The self-righteous and entitled people who have emerged, celebrities who have shown how hard it is to follow the rules with their out of touch social media posts, have really helped to surface the real unsung heroes of this global pandemic -  the rise of essential services and essential workers who have continued to work while we do our part to stay in social isolation.

Hating, lying (people, people)
Disrespectful, forgive me when I'm one of those (people, people)
Deliver me

At the end of the day, we need to check ourselves and see if we are not any of these people that we have pointed out.  Nobody is perfect.  We all have our faults.  We should own up to our mistakes.  If we try to make out that we are better than others, what's up with that?  Just compete with yourself.  Beating your personal best should be the agenda of the day.  We always vent and complain about things, that's natural. But change the behaviours that let yourself down.  Walk away from situations that serve you no purpose if they make you doubt yourself.  Keep away from people who want to see you fail because they will never amount to anything.  I always hope that I won't resort to hate or lie to people.  I always hope that I won't be disrespectful when it isn't warranted, but it's hard when people disrespect you first right?  But all you need to do is just remember that if you don't want to be the negative party that rocks up, just be the best of yourself and be good people. . . .

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