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Best of me . . .

 It's simple I love it, having you near me, having you here
Our conversations, outrageous
You smile, and I smile then I say
Boo, this getting personal, personal, personal
Let's stay for a while and play
Girl let's make this a moment

Sometimes you can't really tell how much of an effect or impact you have on somebody unless they tell you. Sometimes you have to push quite hard so that they can tell you what is really on their mind. You can never really tell who wants to have you near them, who needs to have you there. Conversations may become stilted over time, or not become as free flowing as they used to be. Trying really hard to manage your own emotions while catering for someone else is challenging, particularly when things start to get personal really quickly without warning. Who are you prepared to make moments with?

Giving you the best of me, amazing lady, amazing baby
Having you close to me, amazing outrageous
Give your best to me

You may struggle to believe if you are amazing, whether you could become someone's baby again. Knowing who you are and what you stand for, will help guide you on the pathway to making better decisions for yourself. How can you possibly give your best to someone when you need to be able to show up for yourself first? Find some space somewhere in your life to take stock of what you need to do. People mean well and try to do what they can to support you, when they feel inclined to do so. But other than coming to you in their own times of need, they might not even be aware that while they think you are this amazing person from the outside, your inside is completely disagreeing with all of the external impressions about you.


Good morning, here's breakfast
Lost track of time, but we had a ball
Let's catch a movie, then dinner
Tonight's the night we'll
Just stay wild and stay hey
Let's stay personal, personal, personal 
Let's stay for a while and play
Such a beautiful moment

There is something to be said for an easy meandering through daily routines with someone who makes that so simple. I have often valued the strong silent types who do not need to rely on vocal prompts to get momentum going. There have been times where the best occasions have transpired from unplanned moments that taught me some valuable lessons about myself. The magical times when I have been able to be present in what I see and do with different people in my life - is something that continue to hone on a daily basis. As much as you can, create some beautiful moments with people who value you.

Giving you the best of me, amazing, amazing
Having you close to me amazing, outrageous
Give your best to me
Giving you the best of me, amazing, amazing
Having you close to me amazing, outrageous
Give your best to me

I hope that you find the reciprocity that you have been searching for. When you start to become taken for granted, you start to think about whether it was worth you giving the best of yourself to someone who never deserved you or your time. When someone is willing to give you the best of them, the least you can do is give them a chance to show you what that looks like. Otherwise, if all they offer is false promises and fake praise, then it's time to start stepping away. What lesson can we learn here? Give the best of yourself to those who know what bringing your best is all about. This for me, has become the new standard, the new non-negotiable when I consider how best I want to share the best of me . . . 

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