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What you get is what you see. . .

Some boys got the look of a Greek Adonis
Some boys try to talk you off your feet
Some boys think they're God's gift to women
Some boys think they're sweet enough to eat
Try to change the habit of a lifetime
Don't even try
Cause when you cut down deeper than the icing
You realise

Boys. Men. Whatever you like to call them. Whether you expect it or not, you come across people who like to try things on with you. How do you know that what boys or men are presenting to you is the real deal? How do you know that their intentions are genuine and whether it is worth entertaining? I am sure you have come across some Greek Adonis' in your time. What habit of a lifetime are you trying to change? Succumbing to the wrong types of partners? Why do we get fooled by the icing? Sometimes not all things sweet are nice.

What you get is what you see
Ain't nothing more to it
And if you want to love a woman like me 
It takes a man to do it
If what you get is what you see
Then I don't want your kind of love

You might not want to put on airs or change yourself to gain the attention of someone else. Good for you! One of the hardest lessons you learn about yourself, is knowing how to be comfortable in your own skin. Sometimes as women we forget to make it clear to men what our standards and expectations are for being in relationships. We might get confused or get our wires crossed from time to time, but this is exactly why communication is important. What should they expect to see from you? The correct answer is - whatever the hell you want them to. 


Some guys got lips that you can't help kissing
And some guys got a smile you can't resist
Some guys gotta build a reputation
They just want to add you to the list
You got a lot of physical attraction
I can't deny
But can you guarantee me satisfaction
While I'm still waiting, waiting, waiting

Physical attraction in a relationship is important. Sometimes it might be the start of a relationship, or the end of one - totally depends on how you are treated in that exchange. Who is trying to add you to their list? How can they guarantee you satisfaction? What if the satisfaction you are wanting from them isn't actually physical at all? But in fact, it's all the other things that mean so much more to you? What are you waiting for? 

So let me see your cards on the table
Before I buy
I always read the writing on the label
So give me the reason to believe there's more to you than meets the eye

I hope that whatever season you are in with your life, that you are able to ask to see the cards on the table. Sometimes we get too wrapped up trying to be nice or not be a nuisance, but we have to ask for the things that we want, let people know what we want from a relationship. If they don't want to hear you, then it's time to focus on yourself and do what's right by you for a change. Until they are able to give you a reason to believe that there is more to them than meets the eye, you should reciprocate in kind . . .  what you get is what you see. . . 

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