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Follow your arrow. . . .

If you save yourself for marriage 
You're a bore
You don't save yourself for marriage
You're a horrible person
If you don't have a drink
Then you're a prude
But they'll call you a drunk
As soon as you down the first one

I've often wondered about perceptions that people hold about others. Sometimes we might get embroiled in some gossip that we didn't realise we were being subjected to, and don't really want to participate in. How do we help to deflect this when conversations can very easily slide into this? I guess it depends on your level of patience and how you are positioned - are you a sheep or a shepherd? Too often our actions are dictated by what we are meant to be in society. What are you prepared to save yourself for? Is there anybody worth saving yourself for? People can't wait for you to fail. Will you give them that satisfaction?

If you don't lose the weight
Then you're just fat
But if you lose too much
Then you're on crack
You're damned if you do
And you're damned if you don't
So you might as well just do
Whatever you want

Being on a health journey might mean that your physical appearance may change. When you are trying to lose weight, it takes extreme self discipline and commitment to keep yourself on track. It might be easy for others to give you advice or want to jump on your bandwagon - but stay true to your own cause. I'm on a health journey at the moment where my focus is on a daily regimen that has been tried and tested over several months. Making subtle lifestyle choices that are sustainable has always been the goal. Being able to increase your physical fitness also helps to increase other areas of your life that require the same level of focus and perseverance. Why wouldn't you want to do this for yourself?

So, make lots of noise
Kiss lots of boys
Or kiss lots of girls
If that's something you're into
When the straight and narrow
Gets a little too straight
Roll up a joint, or don't
Just follow your arrow
Wherever it points, yeah
Follow your arrow
Wherever it points

You will always be your happiest when you feel the most free in your life. Have you been able to do things with such abandon because other people's opinions never registered? I have to say, those have been the most liberating experiences, full of laughter and joy. Just focusing on the present moment and enjoying it. Sounds so simple but really hard to master if you get distracted by other negative emotions that try to steal that joy. I think the older you get, you just want to spend your days laughing with people you care about, supporting those who you see have real potential to make an impact in the world. 


If you don't go to church
You'll go to hell
If you're the first one on the front row
You're a self-righteous son of a-
Can't win for losin'
You'll just disappoint 'em 
Just 'cause you can't beat 'em
Don't mean you should join 'em

As someone who goes to church, it can be easy to be seen as someone who is self righteous. This makes me laugh at times because at times I feel like I don't fit in to the church mentality per se. I am open to so many differences and actually relish opportunities to connect with people whose faiths are different to mine. I think it's the best way to learn about people and understand more about where they come from and what they believe. When we stop listening to each other, we stop learning about what the best of us can bring and how we can add value to each other's lives. I wouldn't want people to agree with me all the time, if anything I would just them to at least see why I see things the way I do, see why I believe what I believe. If you cannot articulate your own beliefs without degrading someone else's, you don't know what you're talking about - go get some clarity.

Say what you think (say what you think)
Love who you love (love who you love)
'Cause you just get so many trips 'round the sun
Yeah, you only
Only live once

Make the most of each day and plan to enjoy each moment - even the ones you are dreading. We need to learn how to shift our feelings so that when we are in situations where we feel like we will need to grin and bear it, or suffer in silence through an ordeal - try to take yourself away mentally in your head, trigger some positive memories that will help to sustain a better outlook for your day. Being able to be mindful of your own happiness and joy is practically a full time job in itself, but I promise you, the more you focus on achieving this, the more smiles you will start to see in your own life. All you have to do is follow your arrow. . . 

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