You're driving me away, give e a reason to stay
I want to be lost in you but not in this way
Don't think you quite understand who you have on your hands
How can you not see just how good for you I am?
Why would you stay if you don't feel it is the right thing to do? We tend to drive others away when we go through situations that require clarity of thought, personal space to deal with issues that need not concern the judgmental gaze of others. Why do we allow ourselves to be misunderstood when we should be able to speak freely and loudly? Why should anybody believe that you are a viable choice for any significant position in their life?
I know that you've been hurt before, that's why you feel so insecure
I begged you to let me in, 'cause I only want to be the cure
If you don't choose to grow, we ain't ever gonna know
Just how good this could be
I really hoped that this would go somewhere
We cannot hope to change people's inner perception of themselves. We really don't have any business trifling with people like that.....unless.....it is in the best interests of the public good. Do you have to beg to be in someone's life? Why do you need to work so hard to hold space where none was afforded you in the first instance? Figure out how to care for yourself first before you take on caring for others. We should not feel responsible for taking on other people's circuses when we are not the ringmaster.
Complacency is the worst trait to have, are you crazy?
You ain't never had, ain't never had a woman like me
It is so sad, a man like you could be so lazy
Consistency is the gift to give for free, and it is key
To ever keep, to ever keep a woman like me
When do we get to that state of complacency? Do we forget to read the signs along the way that should warn us when it pops up? Or is it more like some random destination that everybody needs to visit in order to dispel any of the urban legends that have preceded it. We should not let things slide. We should not feel like we cannot articulate what lingers in our hearts, especially when consistency is at stake.
All you do is complain about decisions you make
How can I help lift you if you refuse to activate the life that you truly want?
I know it's hard, but it's not
We come from the same place, but you will never give it up
It's where they make you feel powerful
That's why you think I make you feel small
But that's your projection, it's not my rejection
The thing about trying to lift others is that you have to be able to do so while maintaining your own damn self upright. Sounds like a given right? Wrong. We delude ourselves by thinking that we can change others when they are not willing to fully see who they are first, before invoking their own intrinsic motivation to bring their true life to fruition. When we come across new contexts where we suddenly find ourselves being lifted by so many others, we need to be careful. We must remember to stay humble and observant about the realities of our situation. Never reject what is meant for you - even when it is toxic or negative. How else will you learn?
I put my heart on the line for the very first time
Because you asked me to, and now you've gone and changed your mind
But loving you was a breakthrough
I saw what my heart can really do
Now some other man will get the love I have for you
'Cause you don't care, oh-oh-oh
Bob Marley once said 'the biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her'. When your heart has been bruised and feels like it has taken so long to heal, is it any wonder that you are reluctant to wear it out on your sleeve again? Learning what your heart is really able to do; to have the capacity of your heart grow enough to be able to see its capabilities - mind-blowing.
Complacency is the worst trait to have, are you crazy?
You ain't never had, ain't never had a woman like me
It is so sad, a man like you could be so lazy
Consistency is the gift to give for free, and it is key
To ever keep, to ever keep a woman like me
When do we stop trying? I don't understand how relationships can start to fall apart and break down in ways that make people lazy and give up. Why is it hard for people to be consistent? Easy. Majority of you probably know people who operate in what I call, 'transactional relationships' - where parties are involved in a relationship that has mutual benefits, although somewhat cold and clinical and devoid of human emotion. At its worst, it's the relationships where people only contact you when they need something,
A woman like me (one more time)
Complacency (woman like me) is the worst trait to have (woman like me)
Are you crazy? (woman like me)
You ain't never had, ain't never had a woman like me (woman like me)
It is so sad, a man like you could be so lazy (woman like me)
Consistency is the gift to give for free. . .
I hope that when you interact with the women in your life, that you understand what needs to be done in order to lose that complacency label. Not even trying in a relationship is definitely one sign to give up. Consistency can only be achieved when you are freely availing your time to give as gifts. Who gives you the gift of time? If you're lucky, hopefully you'll find someone who is a woman like me. . .