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About damn time. . .

It's bad bitch o'clock
yeah it's thick-thirty
I've been through a lot
but I'm still flirty (okay)
Is everybody back up in the buildin'?
It's been a minute, tell me how you're healin'
'Cause I'm about to get in my feelings
How you feelin'? How you feel right now?

Sometimes you need to reset by taking some time out and just stepping out of the limelight. You can only really come into your own once you realise how much healing of yourself you need to go through in order to be better for others. Are you an active participant in healing others? Or are you someone toxic who actively seeks out to wreak havoc in the lives of others for your own entertainment? Learning to recognise toxic environments, toxic culture and toxic relationships can take some navigating. Learning how to check this with everybody else around you so you are on the same page, takes time, effort and energy. 

Oh, I been so down and under pressure
I'm way too fine to be this stressed yeah
Oh I'm not the girl I was or used to be uh
Bitch I might be better

Despite what perceived pressure you may be feeling, nothing is more important in trying to figure out how to be less stressed. How long have you been down? How often should you be trying to remove the pressures that you are under? Do you have the means to extricate yourself from sticky situations? Do you believe in your own fineness enough to live life with more finesse? That's completely up to you I guess. Your own definition of fine may not be what others see, but as long as you are confident in who you are, where you are, and what you can do - how can anyone deny who you are to yourself?

Turn up the music, turn down the lights
I've got a feelin' I'm gon' be alright
Okay (okay) alright
It's about damn time (time)
Turn up the music, let's celebrate
(Alright)
I've got a feelin' I'm gon' be okay
Okay (okay) alright
It's about damn time 

Do you know if you're going to be alright? There might be few opportunities where you think you have no chance to do anything. Get rid of that negative self talk. There is no need to torture yourself about things you can no longer control, things that no longer serve you purpose and real genuine meaning in life. Sometimes all it takes is a little time to cut loose, whether it is with good friends and family, or surprisingly enough, on your own. How many times have you turned down the lights and turned up the music? I often escape to places in my mind where there are music rooms that I lose myself in. Such places are handy when I don't see any relief in spaces where lights are constantly turned on, high beaming in my face with white noise blaring in my ears. 


In a minute, I'ma need a sentimental 
Man or woman to pump me up
Feelin' fussy, walkin' in my Balenci-ecis
Tryna bring out the fabulous
'Cause I give a fuck way too much
I'ma need like two shots in my cup
Wanna get up, wanna get down
Mm, that's how I feel right now

Losing yourself in complete abandonment is a really liberating feeling. I guess that's why people drink so much in clubs and bars, to have a good time, to let loose and just lose yourself to the night. Do you have a hype crew or a close circle of friends that you connect with when out on the town? What fabulous are you trying to bring out? It takes a long series of critical self talk to figure out what you GAF about. Sometimes you will need more than one shot in your cup to figure it out. Maybe you need several cups in a long night, but if that's the case, that's probably how you feel right now. 

Bitch
'Cause you know what time it is, uh
I'm comin' out tonight, I'm comin' out tonight (uh-huh)
I'm comin' out tonight, I'm comin' out tonight (woo)
I'm comin' out tonight, I'm comin' out tonight 
Okay (okay) alright (alright)
It's about damn time
I'm comin' out tonight (let's go) I'm comin' out tonight (comin' out tonight)
I'm comin' out tonight, I'm comin' out tonight (woo)
I'm comin' out tonight, I'm comin' out tonight (comin' out tonight)
Okay (okay) alright
It's about damn time
Bitch, yeah yeah, it's about damn time

I hope that wherever you find yourself at this point in your life, that you find ways to come out in your own good time. Think about how you want to spend each night of the rest of your life. Granted that's a bit heavy, but what I'm getting at here is the quality of life that you are living - is it your best life? Is it the kind of life that you signed up for? If it isn't, do something about it. Harness situations that present opportunities that you never dreamed possible. Consider other ventures that usually would fall outside your scope. Nobody has the power to limit you, has the power to decide how you view yourself. Once you accept yourself for the insanely gifted and talented human being you are, nothing will ever knock your confidence again. When that day arrives, all you'll hear me say is it's about damn time. . . 

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