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Just the same. . .

Smash all the pictures where I am in the frame
Toy with my emotions as if it is a game
In the heat of the moment, call someone else's name
I would love you just the same

Have you been in situations where people resurface from your past and want to reconnect?  You may not be wanting to rekindle any type of anything or you might not be open to any distractions because you've moved on and you have other priorities to deal with.  You may have people who count on you to listen to their dramas about their situations that you didn't cause or didn't participate in, but they feel compelled to tell you everything about it because they chose to involve you.  How do you deal with those situations?  Have you been the person to toy with other people's emotions, or had your emotions been toyed with?  Growth and strength are required to build the resilience to recover from being toyed with.  People will toy with your emotions because they use it as a defence mechanism to avoid being hurt themselves, or they just enjoy hurting people.  Despite all of that they still remain in love with you, whether they are willing to admit it or not.  This song is all about being able to admit it.

Drag me through the dirt
Cut me to the bone
Leave me for dead and laugh your way back home
I'd still be smiling like a madman in the rain
And I would love you just the same

Have you pushed someone away because you just couldn't handle how much they claimed to love you?  How much they proved they loved you?  There is a semblance of uncertainty that comes with being a state of disbelief - because you start to wonder if you did something to cause them to love you that much.  What would you do to discourage them?  You might not want to be loved so much, or so deeply.  Maybe you've never had someone love you like that before.  You don't know how to be around them.  You don't know whether you should reciprocate or even you have that same deep capacity to love.  You think only crazy people love that hard and that deep.  Should love be the same?  You can't seem to trust that smile.  Would you see that smile staring back at you in the mirror?

So do your worst to me
Test my loyalty
I will pass with distinction
Of first degree
I lost my mind to you
Somewhere down the line that you drew
But I only have myself to blame
'Cause I still love you just the same

You might engage in some mind games, engaging in psychological warfare that would only rival the divided states of America at the moment.  Has someone challenged you in this way?  Asked you to do your worst while they stayed in love with you?  How can you discourage someone like that?  What kind of steely grit and determination should you be prepared to derail?  You have to wonder if they employ the same tactics in other aspects of their life.  Would you want someone to lose their mind to you?  Have they told you how much they admire your mind, how much thoughts of you occupy their mind so much that they can think of little else?  You might not be entirely responsible for how much they have fallen for you. No.  They just might be the obsessive-compulsive person that you undercover knew they were, but pushed aside too little too late, and this is where you find yourself.



Flog me with malice 'til the rivers running red
Make me an outlaw
Put a price upon my head 
Cast me to exile or a house for the insane
And I would love you just the same

I have seen too many machinations at play when friends have chosen not to be in relationships that they wanted to fall out of.  Regret sets in and they might be interested in other people, 'better offer' relationship if you will, but they didn't count on being loved as much as they have been.  So they find other individuals or friends to help their plot and scheme to disconnect from their deeply obsessed and unwanted partner.  I'm not sure if it's because we get older that we find no time for such nonsense anymore, but could you also put it down to being out of practice or losing the ability to read people if you can't extricate yourself from such a situation?  I think it's hard to learn how to read people because they are not being completely honest anymore.  People are too busy pretending to be what they think they should be and then only reveal their true selves when things start to change.

So do your worst to me
Test my loyalty
I will pass with distinction
Of first degree
I lost my mind to you
Somewhere down the line that you drew
But I only have myself to blame
'Cause I still love you just the same

If you are someone who is holding onto someone who does not want to be held, I admire your dedication and commitment,  Whether you can see that it is a lost cause or not, to endure the constant ignoring or pushing away, I mean, if you're into that sort of thing, then keep doing what you're doing.  I guess this post is for those who have no idea that they are pushed away and think that everything is completely normal in their relationships.  The thing about love is that it doesn't really have to be proven in a test.  Whether you choose to believe that someone loves you or not, that's all you really need to know.  We all need to take responsibility for the love that we share with others. We need to figure out whether we are in healthy relationships with mutual respect and unconditional love.  It's when love comes with conditions that create further conditions that start to develop and change who you are mentally, physically and spiritually - it should make you question whether you should really be loving that person just the same. . . 

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