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You Complete Me. . .

I never knew love was real
Till you walked into my life
All of my fantasies, came true before my eyes
And just the thought of you
Puts a smile on my face
My life is now changed, everything just falls into place

How do you know if love is real?  When that person walks into your life and completely changes how you define love, what you thought love was all about, you start to question whether you knew what love was until they showed up.  You know, sometimes love shows up, or at least you think it's love, but it's something else masquerading as love, or it's hate/deception/harm dressed in love's clothing.  People will start to say and do all of the right things to assure you that their intentions are pure.  What are your experiences of love?  Do you know what you need to do in order to make love feel real for you?  Do you think it's something that you can figure out yourself and talk about with someone who is a person of interest?  There should be multitudes of people who put a smile on your face.  Surely that must be proof that love is real - the way someone's eyes light up as you enter the room.

It's been a long time since I've felt real happiness 
Soo I thank you baby, cause I feel truly blessed 
You must be an angel sent from above
The true definition of Love
How could this love be so real
I can't explain how I feel
But one thing is for sure, each day I love you more
My baby can't you see?
You complete me

When was the last time that you felt real happiness?  The lesson I have learned the most about love, having lost love with the death of my late husband - has definitely been about showing someone how much you care about them - all of the time, every single time.  We take for granted how much someone means to us until they are gone and we can never physically touch them again, we can never make jokes about things that only you both know and you can never just feel safe in the knowledge that you are loved.  What do you think the true definition of love is?  God's unconditional love and unfailing love - is something I can never measure, can probably never see with the naked eye.  But I do know that God inspires me to love anyone and everyone with as much of His unconditional love that I am unworthy of trying to emulate, but can only die trying to convey. 


Every day and night I think of you
Thank the good Lord that you're my boo
From the highest mountain to the deepest sea
The love we share is infinity
Everything you do, I appreciate
You're truly my soulmate and I love you so deep

Is there someone who thinks about you every day and every night?  We should be thankful and grateful to those who would deem to fill their heads with thoughts of our well-being, our welfare, making sure that we are ok.  How many people check in on you?  That when they ask if you're ok, that you feel like you can actually tell them that you aren't?  I can tell you that if you are open to the depths of love, how you can truly be open to the possibilities of what being loving towards others can do - you will start to see the world in a totally different light.  I would like to think that people who need love from me, get it in some way or another.  How do we show the ones we love how much we appreciate them for all that they do?  Even my definition of soulmate has changed over time.  People associate the term with romantic love and a deep passionate love that you are made for someone and someone is made for you.  That may be true.  I'm not sure if it's because I don't trust myself to know if love is real anymore, (relationship-wise anyway), I learn to value the love that I have for myself.  I think about how much kinder I am to others than myself.  Some of that has to stop.  If only so that you have a semblance of sanity to protect yourself.

It's been a long time since I've felt real happiness 
Soo I thank you baby, cause I feel truly blessed 
You must be an angel sent from above
The true definition of Love
How could this love be so real
I can't explain how I feel
But one thing is for sure, each day I love you more
My baby can't you see?
You complete me

I know that trying to figure out whether you are in love or not is a tricky thing.  You don't need to rely on other people's opinions (no matter how well meaning) when it comes to how you feel.  I guess it helps to talk about love more with those who are willing to listen.  As long as they know that they are being sounding boards for you (rather than to offer advice).  One thing that Loma taught me about connecting to people was to just listen.  How I can listen for the heartbeats of others and how deeply they beat for me?  If you don't know whether to trust yourself, to trust their other person - is there any rush for you to know right away?  Knowing things for sure, confirming what you can't see but only feel - that takes time, energy and persistence.  Until you can understand what your heart says to you, that it can explain to you how it feels and what it wants for you, then you won't be able to tell someone else you complete me. . . . 

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