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Back Stabbers. . .

All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (back stabbers)
(They smilin' in your face)
All the time, they want to take your place
The back stabbers (back stabbers)
All the fellas who have someone and you really care, yeah, yeah
Then it's all of you fellas who better beware, yeah, yeah

Who is trying to take your place? You might be missing from the scene, busy doing something else, maybe something more constructive and in your absence they might be trying to make sure that they are being destructive. I can never understand why people do that. If someone does something great that is a wonderful idea and works for the greater good of all, I set about making time to dismantle that idea. But I sure have been on the receiving end of people who like to do that with me. I'm not saying to adopt some kind of "woe is me" attitude. I speak facts about what I have experienced through my lived reality. I can count off in great detail, incidents that have happened to me and you probably wouldn't believe me. It's the stuff of movies I tell you. It's too unbelievable for you to think it's true, because it's just so out of the world that you wouldn't know anybody who has experienced that. But yes. That's me. 

Somebody's out to get your lady
A few of your buddies, they sure look shady
The blades are long, clenched tight in their fists
Aimin' straight at your back
And I don't think they'll miss

If I went through life feeling hard done by and completely fell apart each time somebody was out to get me, I probably wouldn't still be alive today. I would have allowed all of their negativity and ill will towards me prompt me to no longer be part of this world, and escape to my own perceived sense of freedom. Has anybody tried to steal you away from someone else? Has anybody tried to tempt you to steal them? Oh the drama. If people are trying to steal you away from the person you are with, you have to literally take a step back. Are you giving off any vibes that makes them think that you are ripe to be stolen? Did you give them any indication that they have a chance of stealing you away? Once you are able to move past your own ego of feeling desired and wanted by others, you will soon learn to replace this feeling with - what value do these people have to my life? Am I prepared to stay committed to the one I'm with? Only you can answer those questions of yourself. Nobody else.

All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (back stabbers
I keep gettin' all these visits from my friends, yeah, what they doin' to me
They come to my house again and again and again and again yeah
So are they see to see my woman?
I don't even be home but they just keep on comin'
What can I do to get on the right track?
I wish they'd take some of these knives out my back

Friends. What kind of friends come around to try and steal your woman? They're not friends. They're opportunists. Why are they showing up when you aren't even home? If people are showing up with the intent of causing harm, it is time to distance and disassociate yourself from these so-called friends. Do you take stock of who comes to see you in your house? Better to trust those who never come around, than those who come constantly. What are you prepared to do to be on the right track? Whose track is right anyway? Find it within yourself to know what track takes you in a direction that serves your purpose and not your ego. Opportunities will start to fall from the sky and you don't need to wonder why. Keep doing what you're doing and keep making it rain.


All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (back stabbers)
Ha, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, low down, dirty

Have you made it easy for people to take your place? What made them think that they even had a chance? You learn to recognise what happens in spaces that you cannot control, but are forced to co-exist. You either dwell too much on people who wish to cause you harm, or you carry on regardless of their ill will. Spend the time honing your response for how to deal with backstabbers. It takes a bit of effort and a concentrated focus to be able to not feel bothered by it all. It can be challenging to try and figure out how best to respond before losing yourself down a rabbit hole of loathing, which if you are not careful, can take you down the track of self loathing and self pity.

Smilin' faces smilin' faces sometimes tell lies (back stabbers)
(They smilin' in your face)
I don't need low down dirty bastards (back stabbers)

What is in a smile these days? I have written before in previous blogposts many moons ago about smiling faces. How do you know if the smile is genuine or not? You only need to look into their eyes to tell whether the smile is reflected there, and does not escape the corners of the mouth. Can you wipe a fake smile off someone's face? Well you can try. Whether you want to do that physically or figuratively is another option. I would like to think that everytime I smile that it reaches my eyes. I guess when I don't feel like the smile quite reaches my eyes, is when I am genuinely displeased about something or don't feel on the same wavelength. I guess nobody wants to be a low down dirty bastard after all.

Down, down, down, down, down
Down, down, down, down, down, down, down (back stabbers)
(They smilin' in your face) might be your neighbour
Your next door neighbour, yeah (back stabbers)

I hope that even when you are faced with (or not as the case may be) with back stabbers, that you are able to not just protect yourself, but can feel confident to keep your inner peace and locate your energy in positive spaces. It is important to note when people are disingenuous with you. It is important to also note that you do not need to focus so much on such people anyway, if you are going to choose your best life, push others to the limits of their potential, even while they are moaning, venting or complaining to others. They might seek to come to you, but do not want to be associated with having to ask for your help or rely on your beautiful mind. Sadly the world can just be bitter and cruel like that, whether you are prepared for it or not, so just be aware that this is just where life is leading you, to experience new situations that continue to test you and thrust you among people you might have once considered friends or family, but you have now accepted have turned into back stabbers. . . . 
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