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Shower the people. . .

You'll feel better right away. . . 

You can play the game and you can act out the part
Though you know it wasn't written for you
But tell me, how can you stand there with your broken heart
Ashamed of playing the fool
One thing can lead to another, it doesn't take any sacrifice
Oh, father and mother, sister and brother
If it feels nice, don't think twice

Why do people play parts that they think are written for them?  Do you play a part that you've written for yourself?  Too often we play parts that we have always played because we know no other way.  We might play parts that we might feel adventurous to play, but then revert back to old habits and repeat patterns of behaviour that lead us to mistakes because we don't realise what we should be doing (or we're just reluctant to see things as they really are).  We don't like to have egg on our faces and to be humiliated by people who are meant to love us, ridiculed by people who claim to love us.  Have you made any sacrifices that people are unaware or no longer appreciate?  Love can be completely unpredictable.  You think you have a certain type of person that you are attracted to,  But if you were really open to all of the possibilities, would you follow the trail and pick up all the crumbs or throw crumbs of your own, scattered haphazardly across your path, to fool who is coming behind or to place them carefully so that you can find your own way back should you change your mind?

Shower the people you love with love
Show them the way that you feel
Things are gonna work out fine if you only will, do as I say
Shower the people you love with love
Show them the way you feel
Things are gonna be much better if you only will

Do you shower people with love?  The people that you love, with love?  Do the people that you love actually know that you love them?  Are you prepared to tell people that you are capable of love?  That you are ready for love?  The problem lies in you always thinking the worst and doubting what love is and how you are prepared for it, because of your self-sabotage.  Everyone seems to think they are an expert of love, but they base their opinions on their own experiences, what we have been raised to believe about it and whether or not we choose to take all of that on board or not.  Do you talk about love too much with people who are fixed in their ideas about what it is, that by doing so, limits your own forays into it at all?  We can only have it work out in the end depending on the person you are trying to commit to being in love with.  It does take work doesn't it?  Because when you try to put love into place, like something that you timetable or slot when time permits, that's when it changes.  That's when you start to weigh up the pros and cons about whether it is all really worth having it.





You can run but you cannot hide
This is widely known
And what you plan to do with your foolish pride
When you're all by yourself alone
Once you tell someone the way that you feel
You can feel it beginning to ease 
I think it's true what they say about the squeaky wheel 
Always getting the grease 

Foolish pride has a lot to answer for.  It stops us from being really honest, transparent and keen to put our hearts on our sleeves.  We become afraid to shower people we love with love because we think too much about whether there is a strong chance of reciprocity, when in actual fact, the focus should just be on being real and authentic, and just biting the bullet.  Facing rejection can be brutal and really hard to deal with.  But this is what foolish pride does.  It makes you think that taking a chance on something that could possibly bring you pain or make you vulnerable because you admitted to having feelings that might not be returned, so it keeps you chained to possibilities that never will be.  Have you found yourself alone?  Is this a common occurrence?  There's nothing wrong in being alone, sometimes we need the space.  But we can't deal with the space that surrounds our bodies if we can't sort out where our heads and hearts are on the inside.

Better to shower the people you love with love
Show them the way that you feel
Things are gonna work out fine if you only will, what I like to do to you
Shower the people you love with love
Show them the way you feel
Things are gonna be much better if you only will

I hope that as we grow older, we have greater confidence in throwing all caution to the wind.  It may be hard to gauge where things stand, what you are feeling and how things are developing (or not), but we need to remember that everyone is on their own journey.  Imagine if love was like an airport.  Are you going to farewell somebody and wish them well and watch them leave your life from the observation deck?  Are you going to wait for someone to arrive from their journey overseas because they've realised that you were the person they come home to?  Are you the traveller?  Leaving home to explore other possibilities elsewhere?  Are you coming home and is there somebody waiting for you?  Are you travelling alone or with a companion?  How long is your flight, because you might be trying to gain some confidence and need to explore your own backyard with some domestic travel first before taking the plunge overseas.  Be mindful too of the baggage you have.  Did you pack light with just some carry on or you've got every last scrap of clothing and other belongings shoved into suitcases that have seen better days?  I'm not quite sure where I see myself at the airport.  But I know I'll feel better for making the effort of a trip.  Maybe you should try it.  You'll feel better right away. . . 

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