I don't know, I don't know how it feels to be u
Though I try my best to understand what you're going through
I don't know how it feels to be u
Does anyone ever know how it feels to be you? I think we can get ourselves into a whole lot of pain and whole lot of trouble if we think that we can find a perfect someone who understands us, completely, and wants to know our whole being. People that go around promising such things should be shot. They try to make reassurances and promises that they cannot keep. That kind of absolute guarantee should be outlawed and that way, you can avoid having your heart broken into a million pieces when you leave it all out there for someone to pick up. How can you rely on someone to try their best to understand you when you know they do not fully understand who they are first as an individual, before they can try to start committing to you?
Though I try to learn your steps
I don't know what makes you dance
I don't know what turns your gray skies back to blue
Though I try to see your side and swallow all my pride
There is no way I can take a step in your shoes
Have you ever had anybody try to learn your steps? They think they have all the answers to everything that you do They criticise what you do wrong, but rather than let you know of this gently, they like to pull the rug out from underneath you so you lose your bearings. Have you injured yourself enough times while you are dancing? You might even think that you are dancing with someone ,but only realise too late that they extricated themselves from the dance number a while back but you did not seem to notice. Instead they chose to watch you dance from the sidelines because they feel inadequate would rather watch you dance and marvel at you, rather than try to dance with you. These people are smart and have saved you the time and effort. People say trust how a person reveals themselves to you on the very first impression - they very rarely deviate from this pattern of behaviour if you seem to condone it.
'Cause I don't know, I don't know how it feels to be u
Though I try my best to understand what you're going through
I don't know how it feels to be u
You should be asking yourself what you do know about yourself. What you do know about the type of partner you want but are not really seeing right now. When you are a strong intelligence woman and you seem to dance so well on your own, it is only right that a prospective partner would think - what ne moves can I teach her so that she understands how I dance? I think people can sometimes get it wrong, when they think that you have to learn complementary steps in order to compete. No. We are talking about a shared performance here. We are talking about people wanting to collaborate together on a number to show what harmony looks like when two melodies do not need to compete and can exist both as individual parts. but soar even higher when played simultaneously. Can you be the exact right element that your partner's melody needs? We need to learn how to co-exist and co-create together. It will take time and effort to decide how this will work out. Are you ready to dance?
So lay your cheeks upon my chest
Tell me everything that haunts your mind
Oh wow oh oh oh I might not have all the answers
But if you let me, I can at least try (let me try baby)
You can be forgiven for wanting to lay your cheeks on that chest. Someone might be trying to force you to lay on theirs and you're not ready. Another might be offering their chest at more erratic times whilst not offering any type of stability. You never really learn to trust whether you can fully rest on someone's chest or not. Are you prepared to tell them everything that haunts your mind? How can you know if those words can translate well into action, into reality? Sometimes you don't really need someone who has all the answers. They just need to be willing to lie still long enough with you, so that you can just enjoy each other's company in silence. Is that too much to ask? It is, if they are not used to silence and don't feel comfortable in silence.
And when I'm sure I've had enough
The angels tell me just to wait awhile
Oh oh oh and baby I'm sorry
For being so hard on you sometimes
Do you listen enough to the signs all around you? We might be missing some of the signs when we don't look up from the trials and trauma that we are trying to survive. We need to spend more time with ourselves and learning about self reflection and being true to who we are. I think the more that I am on this planet, I am less inclined to change or shift who I am for others, because I am the one who was constantly changing, to make others feel comfortable or comforted. Do we shift so much that we allow ourselves to be walked all over? I'm not sure if we can figure out who we want to be when we are with others who want to spend their lives with us. There is a lot of time and effort that needs to be in play in order for meaningful connections to take place.
And everyday I ask myself
Are we really on the very same page
And everyday I wonder
Is there something that I'm supposed to say
I wonder
I hope that you can find yourself on the same page with someone you want to share your dreams and goals with. There is a lot of difficulty in trying to make things align, but it comes with gentle discussion and being willing to figure out a pathway forward together. I'm not sure whether I am fully ready to tak on board all of that until I arrive there. I don't know specifically when that will be, but because as time goes by, you learn to be more of a person you are willing to be proud to be, more of a person who will be of value to the world, that then becomes the new focus. Whether all of our plans comes to fruition depends solely on our ability to be able to commit or not commit to the realisation of those dreams. I am learning to let go a little more of trying to control things that I now understand, I have no power to control. Instead, having faith in things being what they need to be is more in alignment with my spirit and heart than ever before. So I wouldn't worry anymore. I mean, I no longer worry anymore. And whoever decides to join me on this journey and want to hold my heart may probably never know what it means to say, I don't know how it feels to be u. . . .