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I'll wait to fall in love. . .

 I'll wait for you to fall in love
I'll hold myself only for you
You know I will baby hmmm
Along the way I'll try my hand in love
In hopes that we'll one day bring that unity
The one that feels natural and true
Like an olden day movie
Not pretentious both interests agree
That we belong in love as a power
I'll give to stay you

Relationships are hard ships to navigate when the people in them are not wanting to head in the same direction. Is somebody waiting for you to fall in love with them? Maybe it is a former flame who is trying to convince you that they will do all the right things by you, and they know you haven't received. Have you been guilty of falling in love before the other person has had a chance to figure out their feelings for you? Being able to know for sure that someone is already all in, or that someone is waiting for your love can only happen when you are both honest and upfront about your needs in the relationship. You might need to take a detour and either spend time by yourself, time with other people or just get away to a change of scenery to settle the dust in your own mind.

I'll wait for you to fall in love
(I'll wait. I'll wait, I'll wait)
I'll hold myself only for you
(I'm gonna hold myself for you baby)
I've tried to settle down before
I've tried, I've tried but there's
No other love that will do

How much patience do you have? I have seen so many people waiting around for people to fall in love with them. The single minded determination it takes to stay loyal and faithful - it takes an enormous amount of energy and sadly, it might end up being unrequited, because the other person lacks the language to be able to articulate their own feelings. For the most part, people might be in relationships because they feel pressured by society's norms to be in one, when they are not actually ready to be in one. Have you tried to settle down before? Were you rushing it? Should you have waited? Do we have any regrets? What mistakes could we have avoided? Isn't it all just part of the learning journey of love?

Elated about you all joy (the thrill to me)
For once I can open my heart
And share all feelings
Come closer and make me your own
(Give a lifetime baby)
And shelter me close with your love cause
There is no woman out there can do oh

Have you had anybody completely invested in you that you don't know how to handle it?  You might feel overwhelmed, special, or just completely freaked out because you haven't experienced this before, never been subjected to this kind of intensity of love. It's stressful. It is. Because feelings are hard to talk about. Feelings drive people's motivations to say and do things - whether they are aware of it or not. Being on the receiving end of emotional outbursts that you did not see coming - is all part of the learning journey.  How gracious are you in responding to confessions and secrets that spill forth from the mouths of others? 



I'll wait for you to fall in love
(I'll wait, I'll wait, I'll wait)
I'll hold myself for only you
(I" gonna hold myself for you baby)
I've tried to settle down before
I've tried. I've tried but there's
No other love that will do

So what advice have I given people who are waiting? I usually tell them to be healthy about it. If there is no timeframe given to prepare for a decision - whether it means that other person comes around, or you need to let go and move on - be prepared for how to cope with that decision. One thing about feelings - we cannot control the feelings of others, because they are connected to the effects of your actions. If you do so much that eventually pushes them away, then they will leave. If you don't do enough then eventually the connection fades. When we try to settle down, what are we settling? Have we made those necessary changes to ensure that we accommodate a life to be shared with someone else?

For your love I'll wait (I'll wait)
Girl I'll wait (cause there's no other love)
Cause there's no love that will do makes me feel
The way that you do my baby oh

Hearing someone's feelings about love, and then hearing their feelings about you - these are completely different things. Whether we know how to differentiate that - is completely up to us. We never really know whether we are respecting boundaries and whether people understand what it means to wait. How are we able to articulate our stance on love and then try to figure out what love means between two individuals? If there is no other love to be had, other than the love you want from that other person - just be prepared to accept whatever decision comes your way. We need to learn how to take chances when there are none, and we need to learn how to be resilient when love, or lack of it, knocks us down.

I'll wait for you to fall in love
(I'll wait, I'll wait, I'll wait)
I'll hold myself for only you
(I'm gonna hold myself for you baby)
I've tried to settle down before
I've tried. I've tried but there's
No other love that will do

I hope that if you are waiting for someone, that they know very clearly, that you are waiting. Without letting that other person know that you are in love with them and that you are waiting for them - might mean that you are waiting in vain, because they do not know that they are required to give an answer. Who are you holding yourself for? It is crucial that before you try and go hold someone else, that you know how to hold yourself first. We might meet some other people along our journey who seem to be on the same pace as you and want the same things that you want - but then you never progress this because you keep channeling your love to the one whose love you desire. All I know is that for me, I am in no hurry to take the plunge. Whoever comes knocking at the door, I guess I will just tell myself as I look at them how long before I'll wait to fall in love. . . 
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