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Be kind. . .

 It don't bother me if you're old or young
If you got lots of money or you got next to none
Or where you think we all go when we die
It ain't on my mind if you're big or small
How long it takes you to get up when you fall
Or if you can or cannot handle the spice

We will make connections or disconnections in our life. These connections and disconnections will change over time as and when situations arise, as and when people fall away from your life or not. How do you see yourself? Are you old or young? Do you have lots of money or next to none? What do we really know about ourselves and others around us. How can we escape the burden of judging other? How can we continue to move on, pushing through what we need to do, by judging others instead of being kind? Each time you fall, it is natural instinct to pick yourself back up and dust yourself off. How can we learn to handle spicy situations?

In a world where you can be anything
I'll be kind to you
Could be kind to me?
Kind to me
It's all I'm asking

How can we be kind to others? What actions do we need to display in order to reveal true acts of kindness when they are required? One could argue that being kind is as easy as being cruel - but it comes down to a matter of choice right? What path do you choose? Speak life into people with words of kindness rather than speaking death with cruel words? How do we allow ourselves to get to those points in our interactions with others? Are we that far removed from being able to engage in and exercise acts of kindness because it means putting others before yourself? Being able to reciprocate kindness can only be done when there is a shared understanding about what we need to do and how we can value each other.

It don't bother me what SPF you use
Or if the body you're born in don't define you
We're all taking different ways into Rome
If you get off to guys, girls, both kind
Or someone in between
Or like to dress up even when it ain't Halloween
I don't mind, I say each to their own 

How can we be kind to others who are different from us? Who choose to identify differently from what we may be accustomed to? Sometimes we need to critically examine our own biases. What are we doing to ensure that we don't allows to feel discriminated against based on their skin colour and sexual orientation? Who is the fashion police in your life who tries to dictate what you should wear and how to wear it? Having opinions about others is fine. How you choose to share those opinions should be done in respectful ways that honour others, rather than rushing in there with uncalled for opinions that nobody asked you to analyse. But, like Zak sings, each to their own.


In a world where you can be anything
I'll be kind to you
Could you be kind to me?
Kind to me
It's all I'm asking

How easy is it to be kind then? Pretty easy. Why isn't everybody kind? It takes effort. Why don't people try? They may be experiencing some other traumatic events in their life that prevents them from being kind to others? I mean think about it. How can you be kind to others when you can't be kind to yourself? Others may find it much easier to be kind to others, than to themselves. Why do we self sabotage in this way? When we could be anything in the world, why not choose to be kind? I think people can feel how authentic your acts of kindness are only because someone has shown kindness to you first. Asking people to be kind when they usually aren't can be challenging to navigate as well. 

La, la-la-la, la-la-la-la-la (could you be kind?)
La, la-la-la, la-la-la-la-la (could you be kind to me?)
La, la-la-la, la-la-la-la-la (could you be kind? could you be kind to me?)
La, la-la-la, la-la-la-la-la (could you be kind? could you be kind?)

Being kind in general is different to being kind specifically to people. It is always harder to be kinder to people who never show any semblance of kindness to you at all. How then do you kind it in your heart to be kind to others who refuse kindness in return? Maybe some people value kindness more than others. Sometimes we lose our radar for expressing kindness to others when we are trapped in our pain. However, we should never let anything stop us from learning how to be nicer to yourself. Set yourself a task and ask somebody who struggles to show any real warmth or goodwill towards you - how they want you to treat them. What do you have to lose?

If there is one thing in life that is guaranteed
It's you and I might see things a little differently

I hope that even when you do see things differently to someone else, that you afford them some level of kindness. There can too many distractions in the world that keep us being rude and negative when we should be doing a lot of inner work to be the best version of ourselves. What can you do to help others see that difference is ok? That we can unite together for the greater good of humanity and to know when to celebrate our unique strengths that make us who we are. I used to think that I could plan and do so much with my life, but I am now understanding that I just need to enjoy the ride, enjoy the people along the way and just be kind. . . 

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