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Must've been something. . .

You said I, I didn't do anything wrong
But there must've been somethin' I could've done better 
Oh, oh you said I, I didn't do anything wrong
But there's must've been somethin' I could've done better

It is always hard to know if you have done something wrong.  Especially if you don't know because you are never told, or nothing is ever revealed - no notice.  Nothing.  Zip.  But you learn to figure out what to do with the rest of your time while the rest of you waits in silence for all to be made known in time.  Do you think about the things that you could've done better?  People always want to go back and do things again, have the chance to either make things right or to say what was really burning on their mind.  When someone tells you that you've done nothing wrong, do you believe them?  How do you know for sure that even when they say you don't, it still kind of feels like you did but you're not sure?

Did you want me at home more?
Was I runnin' around more than you liked, leavin' you?
Did you want more alone time?
Was I callin' you up every night when I needed you?

When people want you to do things that make them comfortable and make them feel more reassured about your actions, is this something that you want to do?  What would make you feel at home more?  Would you need to be stuck in one space so that they would feel more comfortable knowing where you are?  Sometimes all we really want is some time alone.  We just want space to figure things out and just think about what it is we really want to do with ourselves.  Do we really want to be that needy person who rings up each night?  When you worry about someone, that's just what you do.

Times that I was tired and selfish
I don't know why I did it, I couldn't help it
But you know that I tried
Now I keep on askin' could I?
Could I?

What things have you done that have been selfish?  I guess it depends on how we look at being selfish really means.  Some would view it as a necessary way to be able to focus on yourself and live your best life.  Others would view it as taking time away from someone else to invest in yourself, that you sacrificed time with them so that you could have time on your own.  Do we ever take the time to check ourselves?  To see whether what we actually did was worth it in the end?  What would you like to be able to try without any restrictions or inhibitions?  I'm not sure anybody ever really knows what they are capable of or how they want to be able to do things if they really think about it.



Memories twist the light
I know you're thinkin' tonight about the things I did right
But seein' you so happy now
Has got me thinkin' about all the things I did wrong

You know when you've done something right when there is some sort of acknowledgement of it being so.  You get a slight nod, a slow blinking of the eyes, a nod perhaps, or even a touch on the arm that shows the connection has been made in some small way.  What memories do you have that twist the light?  We are never really sure whether we remember memories in the same way as other people who are also there.  Do we live in the moment and the memory of that moment the exact same way?  I guess we never really know unless points things out and talk about whether we see things the same way.  When someone is happy without you, how do you react?  When you are able to push your ego aside and appreciate the growth they have had, then you should be able to see their progress beyond you.

Times that I was distant and quiet
I don't know why I didn't tell you what I meant
But you know that I've tried
Now I keep on askin' Could I?
Could I?

When we get distant and quiet it could be because we are busy filtering whole conversations in our heads before we even open our mouths.  We take ourselves away to faraway places while everything else swirls around us.  If you cannot physically your lived reality, then being able to do this is most likely the only way that you can escape from the troubles in your life.  Have you tried to understand someone as much as you could?  Do people tell you what they really mean or leave you to guess everything and hope that it all comes out in the wash?  Sometimes you want to be distant and quiet but you can't.  Instead, you are forced to speak up and have to provide answers when you are compelled.  Sometimes you just let the fight go out of you and just focus on breathing instead.

You said I, I didn't do anything wrong
But there must've been somethin' I could've done better 
Oh, oh you said I, I didn't do anything wrong
But there's must've been somethin' I could've done better

I hope that when we do anything wrong in our lives, we learn to own up to things, that we learn to face the music.  It is definitely easier said than done and most often people would not know what to do or how to handle themselves.  We should always be looking for ways to be better versions of ourselves, to do better with people that we are meant to care about and look after.  We don't often know how long we have to do this in - so each interaction is all that more special because we never know when we are going to depart.  So if you finally have the courage to confront people and let them know what they should've done better, let them know.  If you, on the other hand, choose to say that they didn't do anything wrong, knowing full well that they did, then surely, it is your own fault for not taking the opportunity to rectify the situation and put your heart at east.  Otherwise, never bring it up again, you missed your chance.  Because when it's too late my friend, you'll forever be known as Mr. or Ms. must've been something. . . 

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