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Too much, too little, too late. . .

Guess it's over, call it a day
Sorry that it had to end this way
No reason to pretend
We knew it had to end some day, this way

Trying to stay in a relationship that isn't going anywhere is a bit like staying in a car that won't take you to your intended destination and nobody can be bothered getting out of the car to get it moving again.  Why do people spend lots of time pretending that things are ok and try to stay in places that they shouldn't be in?  I guess because change is a scary thing, knowing things for sure and being afraid to be real with themselves.  There might be some unspoken moments when you know that the more time you spend together, the less time you should actually be spending time together.  Have you given up on pretending?  What made you reach that conclusion?  How did you know it was time to end?

Guess it's over, the kicks are gone
What's the use of tryin' to hang on?
Somewhere we lost the key
So little left for you and me and it's clear to see

Whatever seemed to be excitement or passion that kept you together soon reveals a gradually fading appeal.  When relationships break down you think about whether it is worth holding on, whether the person you are in a relationship with is worth hanging on to.  There might be people around that hold onto their relationships for convenience, to keep up appearances and because they don't want want to be alone.  I guess if you need someone to be with in your life because you don't know how to be alone or are afraid to end up alone, that's something you need to think very carefully about.  What goes for kicks these days anyway?  What might have seemed shiny and new seems to evaporate or disappear when reality hits.  It doesn't mean that it was all a waste of time though.  It just means that if you have to give so much away for yourself that there is little left for you - it's time to find the key to yourself once more.



Too much, too little, too late to lie again with you
Too much, too little, too late to try again with you
We're in the middle of ending something that we do 
It's over
Oh it was over

The thing about relationships is trying to use your intuition to learn how to respond to your partner in all aspects of the connection.  There will be times when things are too much, whether you're bringing too much to the equation and you start to overwhelm them.  There will be times when things are too little and you are not bringing enough to the table, whether it's bacon, love or just plain common sense.  There will be times when things are too late, because you always get the timing wrong, never astute enough to read the signs when it comes being on time, knowing intuitively when to be there, when to pull back and anticipating your partner's needs.  If you have the patience I guess you could come up with an entire checklist of things that you've done wrong that lead to spelling the end of the relationship.  Things you did wrong and this is why we're over.  Are you close to that point?

Too much, too little, too late to ever try again

Too much, too little, too late let's end it being friends
Too much, too little, too late we knew it had to end
And it's over
It's over

Have you decided that you won't ever try again, because you've already tried too many times?  It's understandable that you have reached that conclusion to give up.  When things are too far gone, the pain of not being together means that it is hard to end it being friends either.  You won't be able to grow, mature and heal if you try to maintain the ties with friends as there is no real intention to start anew.  When you know that something has to end, it doesn't make it any easier either.  Have you been in relationships where you spend time painstakingly going over each and every incident, every conversation, each disagreement that has brought you to this plateau?  Playing the blame game doesn't work either and arriving at the decision to part must look like the obvious next step.

Guess it's over the chips are down
Nearly all our bridges tumbled down
Whatever chances we try, let's face it, why deny
It's over
It's all over
It's over

I hope that once all is said and done, that you find yourself in the space that you need to be.  From time to time, you will relapse and go back to what you have known, where you reach back into the remnants of your past and choose to catch a glimpse of what was just one more time.  There is no solace that can come from doing that.  No matter how many times you go back, it always eventually brings you back to the present, to the now that tells your heart that there is no future.  Are you in the habit of lying to yourself and denying what needs to happen?  I guess you can only move as fast as you want to, so if you're the type of person who chooses to wallow in their self-pity and thinks that the world owes you and all of your ex-partners should be hung up on you - you might be sorely disappointed.  There is no time left to regret what has happened as we cannot reclaim those moments that have faded with each passing second.  The chips are down for now, but they will not be down forever.  Just make peace with what was and acknowledge where you gave it your all, whether it was too much, too little, too late. . . . 

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