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Best thing I never had. . .

What goes around comes back around (hey my baby)
What goes around comes back around (hey my baby)
I say what goes around comes back around (hey my baby)
What goes around comes back around

You never really think about karma and its effects until somebody does you wrong.  I have seen strong women who I love and respect get completely wrecked by the men in their lives.  I have waited until they have come to a sense of realisation that maybe they should no longer be in relationships with their partners, but all you can really do is stand alongside your friend and hold her hand when she needs you the most.  You can only be a shoulder for her to lean on when she needs to let it all out. 

There was a time
I thought you did everything right
No lies, no wrong
Boy I must've been outta my mind
So when I think of the time that I almost loved you
You showed your ass and I, I saw the real you

As a friend, you stay supportive and excited for the love she professes about the one she's with.  You start to hear some things that don't sit right with you, but you say nothing.  You know in the past when you have offered advice, you weren't really sure if she was receptive, and she was always quick to defend her man, always quick to make up excuses for his bad behaviour and his grossly boorish attitude that you would've quickly slapped off him if you were given half the chance.  She starts to pick up on the things that you have known were there for a while.  All you do is sit and listen while she draws her conclusions.

Thank God you blew it
I thank God I dodged a bullet
I'm so over you
So baby good lookin' out

That time when she realises that her self worth is way more than any sense of compulsion to stay with a man who makes her feel less than a queen.  It takes every ounce of strength for you to just let her piece everything together, to construct the chronological timeline of patterns of behaviour that should tell her exactly what he's been up to, what he's been like the entire time.  Have you ever been lucky enough to dodge a bullet?  Do you know what to look out for in order to dodge those bullets? 


I wanted you bad
I'm so through with that
'Cause honestly you turned out to be the 
Best thing I never had
You turned out to be the 
Best thing I never had
And I'm gon' always be the best thing you never had
Oh I bet it sucks to be you right now

When you think you want someone but then realise that they are not what they seem.  Why do they insist on pretending to be someone they aren't when they are with you?  Do they think that you wouldn't notice the subtle changes in how he treats you?  Would he think you didn't notice how inconsiderate he's becoming?  Doing things without you or things that only fall within his own interests and not shared as they should be.  Did he think that you wouldn't want to be the queen to his king's landing? 

So sad you're hurt
Boo hoo, did you expect me to care?
You don't deserve my tears 
I guess that's why they ain't there
When I think that there was a time that I almost loved you
You showed your ass and baby yes, I saw the real you

Sometimes the best defence mechanism for a woman scorned is to be angry and to feel the outrage that she is entitled to feel.  After you have brushed away all of your tears for the all the times that he's hurt you - how will you know that it's time to stand up for yourself?  We shouldn't care so much for someone if it comes at the expense of our own happiness.  When are you constantly giving, how long do you think it will be before you start to feel empty?  We may be fooled into being that we are in love or that we love someone - when in actual fact, we are in love with the feeling of love, the idea of love.

I know you want me back
It's time to face the facts 
That I'm the one that got away
Lord knows that it would take another place
Another time, another world, another life
Thank God I found the good in goodbye

If someone wanted you back, would you go?  You might be the one who has got away from so many people who have tried to trap you, tried to keep you close, to make you part of their domain, at their beck and call.  You should be feeling relief right now that you were able to escape, able to finally leave a situation that no longer respected you and loved you as much as you needed.  I hope that you recognise that you are a phenomenal woman, with so many fine qualities that reflect your inner beauty and strength.  Don't let any man come along and take what he wants from you.  No man has any business taking away anything from you that you aren't prepared to give.  Keep all of this mind and you will never forget that what goes around comes around and he will not only long be a distant memory, but that for him, you will the best thing he never had. . .  

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