Cause I'll be standing on the side. . .
Everybody's a thing
But some don't know how to handle it
Always reachin' out in vain
Just taking the things not worth having but
Who's the thing in your life?
There will be things that persist in being a problem in your life but it's up to you to figure out how to cope with all of that. Problems persist because they require your attention. So what type of attention will you pay to it? Are you reaching out in vain to things that you don't need to be reaching out for? You try to tell yourself that you don't need anybody or anything in your life - but the sad fact is that yes, humans require other human contact. You just ration how much of it you need to have around you - whatever your comfort level will allow. What do you need to know in order to handle your business? Sometimes all it needs is one swift sharp action that will put a stop to anything resurfacing again. Once you figure out how to discern not taking things that aren't worth it, you'll be better off.
Don't you worry 'bout a thing
Don't you worry 'bout a thing, mama
'Cause I'll be standing on the side
When you check it out
It's funny. When someone says not to worry about a thing - what do you go and do? Worry.
We choose to worry and obsess about things that we can't control. When we are able to accept what we cannot control. that is the first step to being really able to live your own life. How free are you really, right now? We are all bound by obligation in some way or another. Some of us more than others. We can choose to live a life of resentment or we can choose to live in hope, in the hope that whatever we are facing right now, will not last. Everything that comes, will come to pass. There is great comfort and a sense of peace in knowing that bad times will not follow you, will not plague you. Instead focus on the strengths that you have, the gifts and the talents that you have amassed over time because only you. can do the things that you do. If people could do what you do - then everybody you knew would be exactly like you. Trust in yourself and know that you can stand on the side quite comfortably.
They say your style of life's a drag
And that you must go other places
But just don't you feel too bad
When you get fooled by smiling faces but
If you need to go to other places, be prepared to go to those places alone.
There will be times in your life where you are expected to go where others can no longer follow.
This will be natural. When you are coming through a massive change by standing at those crossroads, there are decisions to be made. There might not be choices or options that you particularly like, but they will be changes that you must consider nonetheless. How easy is it though to flip what you don't like, into something that you don't mind. It's a question of how much are you prepared to let something bother you - well, are you? If the way you live your life isn't someone else's cup of tea - why feel the need to comment on it? That's always been something I have found irksome.
Don't you worry 'bout a thing, mama
'Cause I'll be standing on the side
When you check it out
When people can comment on the lives of others when they have no idea how your life is. Like seriously. Beware of the company you keep. The smiling faces may be hiding other things you don't readily see on the surface. Because while they smile to your face, they scowl when you turn around. It takes a while for you to develop a thick skin. And you know what, I'm not saying that criticism is wrong. because it isn't - not when it's constructive. But when people have opinions about things that are not part of their lifestyle - why comment in the first place? It's the same as WRITING LIKE THIS BECAUSE THEN PEOPLE START TO THINK YOU'RE SHOUTING AFTER A WHILE. I have an older brother that used to write his emails like that, until I told him that you shouldn't write that way because it goes against online etiquette. Because then I started noticing that type of online shouting on his
When you get it off your trip
Don't you worry 'bout a thing
Don't you worry 'bout a thing
What trip are you on?
There is a process to every single thing you engage in. Whether you are able to have some input in how these come about is totally up to you. There should come a point in your life where you finally get a chance to just say, you know what, I'm going to just make some decisions on my own and just run with it. There will be people that will never truly understand or support your decisions as to why you did certain things, or acted in ways that is foreign to them. If they were meant to understand, then they would. There is a sense of willingness that people are prepared to do - where they suspend disbelief (and their ego) and truly listen to what's going on. When I think about the countless friends who have asked for help or support over the years, I have tried to reciprocate in ways that I would want to be supported - not out of expectation, but out of a sense of loyalty about how much I cared about and valued the connection to them.
Don't you worry 'bout a thing
Don't you worry 'bout a thing, mama
'Cause I'll be standing in the wings
When you check it out
What do you have to check out?
There will seem like in the darkest moments and lowest points in your life, where there doesn't seem to be anything left to do but completely give in and give up before you completely give out. Sometimes giving up is the only option. But other times it's a matter of perception. The thing about being at rockbottom, is knowing that when you're look up to the mountains from the valley that you find yourself in - that's promising in itself. Because you're looking up.
Who do you have standing in the wings for you?
If you don't have a support system in place, that either means you have some pretty stink friends or they don't know how to be around you. So just let them know that you still care, even when they don't know what to say. All of my friends and family out there, even people that I meet randomly at conferences, just know that whatever you need, don't you worry 'bout a thing. . . cause I'll be standing on the side when you check it out. . .