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Stop for the one. . .

Trophies, medals, name plaque on a star
Face in lights all over the boulevard
I want to be like you
I want to be like you, hey
Money, cars, riches and fame
Thousands upon thousands, yeh
Calling my name
I want to be like you
I want to be like you

Do people want to be like you? They think success comes easy and all they see is the tip of your iceberg.  They don't know what you have sacrificed to be where you are.  They don't really know how much you have suffered to be where you are.  Instead, they want the quick instant fix that allows them to feel like they too can experience success. I mean, I even created a pyramid about it talking about the different types of ass that you can be at your job.  If I've explained it to you then you know what I'm talking about.  What are the qualities that people want of yours?  They may see the trappings of that success in terms of material wealth, but wealth comes and goes like farts after some really intense curry - you know you're going to have to pay for it later, but you just can't help how good it tastes.

But it means nothing at all
If I don't know love, if I don't know love
If I can't stop for the one in front of me
It means nothing at all
If I don't know love
If I can't stop for the one in front of me
Stop for the one
Stop for the one

If you are an avid reader of this blog or just a good friend, you will know that I am a widow.  It's a daily journey and sometimes I completely forget about it while I get busy living (if I am to take Andy Dufresne - get busy living or get busy dying).  As hard as things seem to be, we can never give up on the hard things that lay in the paths that hinder us from beating those obstacles.  Do you know how to love?  I honestly don't think I know anymore.  I think there's something broken - maybe my heart?  And I don't know what it means to be loved, like, really truly loved with the kind of unconditional love, that agape love that God's divine love provides.  I think the focus has been on eros love when I should've been more focused on storge and philia love.  I am starting to understand and appreciate philia these days and it's unlike anything I have ever felt before.  I think now that I have lots of friends who have tried to show me this type of love but I haven't been ready to receive it.  I like how persistent God can be.  Interesting lessons you learn when you think you're not paying attention to the signs.

Rumours, pictures, hearts sold on a stand
Dreaming of holding the word in my hands
I want to be like you
I want to be like you, hey

What word are you dreaming of holding in your hands?  Rumours may plague you when people are too busy worrying about your life and who you're spending time with when they should be more worried about their own antics.  What pictures have you been forced to try and take notice of, what people are insistent that you see?  Whose hearts are on the line?  If someone wants to be like you, it's because they want to capture the best of you in a bottle, ready to drink at any given time like some tonic or elixir with magical and special properties.  Who would want to profit from your pain?  If you are with a partner who sees nothing but joy in your pain and suffering - time to cut that connection once and for all.

Status quo, who's got the lot?
Flashing numbers to get to the top
I want to be like you
I want to be like you

Who decides who has the lot?  What is worth having and who should be responsible for maintaining the status quo?  Sitting here in the lounge, I think about how everyone is so intent on their own businesses and power plays within their own world.  I just remembered an incident where I was in Christchurch and I ran up to someone who I thought was somebody I knew from work and I was so confident that it was him - but alas, it was not to be.  The man was, in fact, a total stranger and I had never seen him before in my life.  He was a good sport about it - because I had approached him from behind and was too over familiar with him.  It was nothing untoward - it was just the wrong person.  And when my colleague did finally show up in the lounge, I had to pull him across to meet the stranger and regale the story.  Why am I retelling this story?  I've been thinking about the status quo and how I don't really belong, fit or tried to be anyone else other than I am.  This is why I dont want people to be like me.  I just want them to be who I see them as - full of untapped potential that is yet to be brought to fruition.



But it means nothing at all
If I don't know love, if I don't know love
If I can't stop for the one in front of me
It means nothing at all
If I don't know love
If I can't stop for the one in front of me
Stop for the one
Stop for the one
Stop for the one
Stop for the one
Stop for the one

What lesson can we possibly learn?  All of the kinds of love that we should be feeling towards mankind.  Granted there will be people who get right up your nose, hang on the nose hairs, force you to sneeze and try to expel from your nostrils like that chip from Arnold Schwarzenegger in Total Recall.  We only ever celebrate eros and his love but fail to look at philia love and how we can connect on a soul level with other people, fail to see how we can have deep emotional bonds that are located deep with the bonds of friendship.  Yet it's that type of connection that lasts longer or seems far deeper than the skin to skin contact of eros.  Have you stopped for the one in front of you?  Have you taken a good long look at who is actually standing in front of you?

What does it mean if I don't love you baby?
All the riches and fame 
The money and the cars 
Oh it means nothing at all
If I don't know 

I hope that you take more notice of your surroundings.  We can often get distracted by things or people that do not serve our true purpose on earth.  You might also be coming to realise the importance of your own self-worth.  You might have had loads of people try to tell you for a veeeery long time but you didn't choose to believe them - because friends say stuff like that all the time that you don't want to hear.  Your friends are always going to be nice to you, aren't they?  Well. except the few who are more like frenemies lol.  It's time to stop ruining your energy by being near toxic energy.  Instead focus more on yourself and what you need to do to accomplish your goals, and that may even mean from a few moments or so, making the time to stop for the one. . . 

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