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What goes around. . .

First of all you should know that
I am over you it's okay
But then I never thought
I would make it to this day
After everything we've been through
I finally know the truth

You have to have the patience of a saint in order to withstand the abuse that you have let slide.
When relationships or connections end, how it ends dictates whether you are able to part on good terms or not.  When you finally get over someone, you start to realise probably more about yourself, than about the person you are no longer seeing. Did you think you would see yourself at this day?  When you start to uncover the truth about yourself, you might not like what you see in the mirror.  Do you blame the influence of the person you have parted ways with? You spend the time reflecting on what has been.

What goes around comes around
And will come back to you
And how you treat your brother man
Will pay you back in full
And for every seed you will sow
I just thought that you should know
Hm hm hey yeah

Have you been mistreated by people in the past?  How long have you suffered through meaningless conversations that never went anywhere because you were too polite to excuse yourself from the table?  You would like to think that the love you put out and show people would be enough for them to know that you would like that reciprocated.  But no, they have other plans in mind which may or may not include hurting your feelings, abusing your love and trust.  I had someone tell me recently to think more about my self worth and how much I was not valuing myself.  It took me a while to figure this out because I spend far too much time making sure others around me are looked after.

Life ain't always fair I know
But I'm over that it's ok
With all the goodness and all the grace
Could not lead me to this day
And I wish you love and life my friend
Because I know that in the end that

With every breakup there is always different reactions.  I have yet to experience a breakup that has resulted in a screaming match and I really put that down to the level of communication that I was able to cultivate in that relationship.  I always find that people scream blindly at each other because they don't have the patience to listen to each other.  I think back and reflect on times when there have been screaming, and it only happened because the person I was arguing with, would only listen if I raised my voice.  I have always wished people well in their lives.  That even though what we had didn't work out and we had to call it quits, it didn't mean that we need to call it quits on the friendship.



What goes around comes around
And will come back to you
And how you treat your brother man
Will pay you back in full
And for every seed you will sow
I just thought that you should know
Hm hm hey yeah

Do you wonder what goes around?  Do you think about all of the things that you have done, that have hurt people, do you think that you will be hurt yourself in time?  I don't understand who willingly go out and hurt others.  It's like they woke up one morning and decided to hurt every single person that they come into contact with.  I've lost count of how many times I've had to pick up the pieces of broken people who insisted that only I could help them.  We need to think carefully about what seeds we sow.  People may not understand what we are planting and how often we plant, but sure enough they will come checking your garden and wanting to pluck the flowers that they had no part in planting.

Call it what you want to
But a rose by any other name is still that flower just the same
Take anything you need to
But don't make believe the world is how you see it
No no no hey

Do you let people take things from you that you are trying to keep preserved for yourself?  It's really hard to be vulnerable in a relationship, or to even start to be real and genuine, because being vulnerable is part of that package, like a by-product of that action of actually being yourself.  When communication breaks down in a relationship, you both see the same things differently.  This should be the beauty of a relationship - to see someone else's perspective.  To understand where someone is coming from because you chose to love them, in spite of all of that.  We are always in danger of never allowing other perspectives to feature as part of our lens, as part of our world view.  So remember to know how it feels to walk in someone else's shoes.  Regardless of the state of those shoes.

What goes around comes around
And will come back to you
And how you treat your brother man
Will pay you back in full
And for every seed you will sow
I just thought that you should know
Hm hm hey yeah

I hope that you learn to be more understanding and more circumspect in how you relate to others.  We have been hit in Christchurch New Zealand with a terrorist attack that was years in the making and only hours to carry out.  How we treat others in our daily interactions, even with strangers, a simple smile that reaches beyond your mouth and into your eyes - is all you need to do.  How do you want to be treated?  How will you treat your brother man?  We must continue to remain hopeful, to remain steadfast and unequivocally united in the faces of those who seek to destroy that.  We do not need to give in to the cruelty and darkness that is perpetuated by the evil few.  Instead we can rise above it all and gently remind those who need to know, that their time for justice is coming, because you know, what goes around. . . . 

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