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Everybody's changing. . .

And I don't feel the same. . . 

You say you wander your own land
But when I think about it
I don't see how you can

Why do we question where people wander?
Do we do this because we feel restricted about where we are in our lives so it's easier to tell someone else how they can live their lives?  Especially if they choose to wander?  You would have to know whether where they choose to wander is in their own land.  Who gets to say anything about ownership anyway?  Indigenous people will tell you that they do not own land, but are rather, the keepers of protecting said land, that they are carriers of the knowledge of that land, everything associated with it that entails us being guardians to look after it and ensure that it continues life into the next generation.  How can we so easily see, question and doubt others, but are so unwilling to see our own reflections in the mirror?  It is very easy to be a critic if you are not a creator.

You're aching, you're breaking
And I can see the pain in your eyes
Says everybody's changing
And I don't know why

Do you see this in their eyes?
How well are your eyes attuned to seeing aching and breaking in other people's eyes?
Maybe those people are just really good at hiding it in public but choose to reveal those aches and breaks to you - because you are just so unrelenting in your gaze that you refuse to look away until you find what you're searching for there.  What can we do if we come across our nearest and dearest when they are feeling this way?  How can we help to reassure them, to reconnect them with the best parts of themselves, if they feel that their lives are falling apart around them?  How can we show someone else that what they are seeing is not as bad as they are thinking and feeling?  Is it even our place to go there?  Sometimes we are invited into emotional spaces because people want us in there.  You have to be careful that you haven't lead yourself into a space where you become trapped and add to the problem too. 

So little time
Try to understand that I'm
Trying to make a move just to stay in the game
I try to stay awake and remember my name
But everybody's changing and I don't feel the same

What are you doing with your little time?
Time is irrelevant.  You can do whatever you want in that time window.  There's that phrase, time window.  Something I heard someone refer to a few weeks ago about prioritising ideas or concepts so that you can get to a resolution about an consensus in a limited time window.  I think there have been too many people around me who have spent too much time lingering at a certain window and wondering why it won't open, or why it won't close.  It's really pretty simple.  Their choices have lead them to fixate on that same window hoping for a different outcome, when in actual fact, what they are witnessing through that window, has moved on without them, without them even knowing.  It's a bit like Bruce Willis in "The Sixth Sense' when he realises at the very end of the film - wow, I was dead this whole time?  I've been a ghost and the only reason I've been interacting with this kid is because he can see dead people. 


You're gone from here
Soon you will disappear
Fading into beautiful light
'Cause everybody's changing
And I don't feel right

What happens when we leave people's lives?
We may leave them without them knowing. We may leave them because we innately know that it is time to leave and it's the best course of action for them.  We may be gone because there are other more important things that we are called to do, and we must live our divine purpose - even if we have to throw caution to the wind in the process.  Where will you disappear to?  Will you leave traces of your presence in some way so that people recognise that you had such an illuminating effect on their lives.  They might try to trap you in their memories framed in old photos that they keep hidden from view.  What is it that causes you not to feel right about change?  If everybody is changing, do you need to change too?

So little time
Try to understand that I'm
Trying to make a move just to stay in the game
I try to stay awake and remember my name
But everybody's changing and I don't feel the same

What moves are you making just to stay in the game?
We forget that some moves we don't necessarily need to know.  We instead can just rely on serendipitous opportunities that occur naturally, or we can just have faith in that things will work themselves out in time, if we continue to strive towards our ultimate life goals.  That may be difficult to do if we are constantly reminded of responsibility, obligations and expectations that we often see as distractions or reasons to not succeed, but no.  We no longer need to think negatively about the things that appear to be obstacles.  Embrace those people.  Trust the process.  Know that the only certain thing is uncertainty.  Have an unfailing optimism that even the strongest pessimist just cannot quell with their skepticism and cynicism.  They don't know any way to be unfortunately.

So little time
Try to understand that I'm
Trying to make a move just to stay in the game
I try to stay awake and remember my name
But everybody's changing and I don't feel the same

I hope that you stay awake, but more importantly stay woke.
There are a lot more deeper defining issues and causes that outweigh the first world problems that we surround ourselves with.  If we stay true to what we can do with our woke selves and think about how we can use the power to change to not just be part of the masses who demand change that hurts other, but be the change that you not only want to see in the world, but want to be in the world.  We don't need to have anybody remember our names, if we can barely remember our own.  Instead we can use our names to bring attention to things, people, causes and concerns that will make it better for when we are no longer here.  If there's one thing that I love the most about change is that, yes everybody's changing, but we all change at different rates, we all grow into our own thoughts and bodies and can become anything we set our hearts to.  And you know what, it's perfectly ok that everybody's changing and I don't feel the same. . . 

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